Perseverance is the Critical Component of Success

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Perseverance is the Critical Component of Success

Reaching the destination is the culmination of one more stride, repeated again and again, while refusing to entertain the idea of giving up.

Beginning a new journey is the easy part. After the decision has been made, you start out. You feel fresh, energized, and optimistic. You know what you want. Then, adversity hits. Something unexpectedly difficult occurs. This wasn’t supposed to happen. Fatigue and discouragement creep in, then settle in. What once seemed so grand is now hazy. The goal is still there, in front of you, out there somewhere. But now, you begin to wonder if it’s worth it. You begin to ask yourself, “If I quit now would it be so bad?”.

U.S. Navy SEALS are some of the most elite, hardened, and mentally tough soldiers in the world. Those who attempt to become SEALS undergo a grueling training period known as BUD/S. Not all of the candidates make it successfully to completion. Along the way, trainees may opt-out at any point they wish to. According to accounts I have read, it is often those who have a Plan B who are more likely to drop out. For those who only have a Plan A, to make it to the end of the training, the odds of success are much higher.

Do you have a Plan B? I am not talking here about demonstrating flexibility and changing course, when necessary. I am referring to a contingency plan that takes the form of ultimately throwing in the towel. If it gets too hard… If it takes too long… If I’m not sure I can do it…

Sometimes the difference between success and failure lies in taking one more step. After all, you can’t reach the summit of the mountain in one giant leap. It happens one… step… at… a… time.

So when you don’t think you can keep going, take one more step.

When you get tired, take one more step.

When you get bored, take one more step.

When it seems overwhelming, take one more step.

When it seems hopeless, take one more step.

The choice is one we all face: Live with regret, or live with victory?

Are you in need of a professional coach who possesses both the tools and experience to help you persevere during this season of your journey? If so, contact me for a complimentary consultation and we’ll explore the possibilities together.

Chuck Sheron
Executive Leadership and Career Coach
360.836.0391
[email protected]

3 Ways to Make Transitions Your Ally

Transitions are your ally - Success Coach Chuck Sheron in Vancouver WA

3 Ways to Make Transitions Your Ally

Transition, the process of change which occurs when shifting from one situation to another, can be challenging. Most of us are able to navigate minor, expected transitions without too much effort. For example, shifting gears from the weekend to Monday morning and the routine of work, or from winter to spring and the change in weather. However, other, more significant transitions can require more skill to address: A new job (or lack thereof), the loss or addition of a new family member, a diagnosis, retirement, or moving to a new city are all examples of important changes in one’s life. In my work as a professional coach and consultant I provide my clients with tools to assist them in the perceptions, interpretations, and decisions they make while in transition. Although certainly not an exhaustive list, I offer these three general strategies to help you in your own journey:

1) Let Go of Whatever Needs to be Released
At its core, transition is the bridge that connects the gap between what is old and what is new. We naturally remember, identify with, and have a connection with the familiar. For instance, you are moving away from life as a single person toward a new life as a married spouse (or vise-versa). You can relate to being single, because you lived that lifestyle for many years. The wedding ceremony provides a dramatic event by which you leave the realm of a single and instantly transports you into the realm of a husband or wife. Along with that new role comes new opportunities, responsibilities, challenges, and experiences. Everything is different! It is not uncommon for a person to think about how much has changed, and to compare life now to what it used to be. However, the transition is generally a bit smoother if the individual is able to leave that previous life in the past in order to walk forward into the new life he or she has chosen to begin. As a professional coach and consultant, I have many tools I teach my clients to use that help them to accomplish this.

2) Embrace Disorientation
Let’s face it, that sense of feeling lost, confused, or both is not particularly enjoyable. In fact, it can be quite paralyzing. Why? I believe it is because we inherently want to experience a semblance of control in our lives. An internal locus of control allows us to mold the narrative into, “This is what I am doing” rather than, “This is what is being done to me”. Of course, there is a tremendous difference between the two. When we feel as though we are somehow being prevented from charting our own course or don’t know what course to chart, an uncomfortable disequilibrium is created. Fighting against that disorientation usually makes it worse. Instead, I advise my clients to remind themselves this current state is only temporary and there is actually a great deal to be learned during this time. Additionally, I encourage them to ride it out because it is precisely because of and during this confusing phase that one can later experience meaningful growth, which leads us to the third strategy…

3) Utilize Change as a Catalyst for Growth
Often, navigating change becomes more difficult as we age. We become more naturally set in our ways and, over time, tend to trade novelty for predictability. Change is inevitable. It is sometimes easy to forget that the process of change is not an obstacle to growth, it is the pathway to growth. I think one of my college professors put it best when she said, “Change only takes place when you are out of your comfort zone”. How true that is! Personal growth doesn’t occur when times are easy. The hard work of becoming, adapting, and changing happens when we are struggling. It happens when we are off-balance and asking ourselves, “Can I do this? Will I be able to hang on long enough to get to the point where I have ‘arrived’?”. Of course, reaching the destination is not the end, but a new beginning in the next change that unfolds. That is precisely why learning new skills to promote growth through the cycle of change is so valuable, because those skills can be applied toward other situations too.

Are you currently in transition? If so, you are not alone and do not need to experience it in isolation. Why not avail yourself of a trained professional to help guide you through it? If you are looking for help in navigating your personal and/or professional transitions with an experienced, certificated coach I invite you to contact me for a complimentary 30-minute design session.

Chuck Sheron, AELC
Reimagine Success Coaching, LLC
www.reimaginesuccesscoaching.com
[email protected]

5 Top Leadership Characteristics

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5 Top Leadership Characteristics

What are the elements that comprise an effective leader? While there may not be universal agreement on what those qualities are, I believe the following characteristics are at or near the top of the list more often than not. For many years, I worked in the education field as a teacher and principal in multiple public and private school systems. I also earned bachelor’s and master’s degrees in educational leadership. Now, I own my own professional coaching and consulting business and offer my clients leadership development services, as many people are interested in improving their skills in this area of their professional and personal lives. These qualities are based on my work and experience in these fields over time.

1) Lead by Example
People want to know their supervisor, team captain, or CEO is willing to roll up their sleeves and get into the trenches with them. What kind of imagery is evoked toward someone who “rules in an ivory tower”, rarely leaves his office, or asks others to do things she is not willing to do herself? Does it inspire people to go the extra mile, or merely do enough to get by? How does it effect organizational culture, climate, and sense of teamwork? Conversely, what kinds of thoughts do you have toward someone who was intentional about lending a hand to make the load lighter for you or assist in a pinch? A true leader not only talks the talk but, more importantly, walks the walk. As the saying goes, talk is cheap. What are you doing to show your people they matter to you? What actions are you taking to come alongside those you work, play, and live with?

2) Collaborate
Most of us naturally want to be genuinely listened to, and our input honestly considered. It is a sign not only of professional respect, but wisdom as well for a leader to garner feedback from those around her. As a principal, I knew I was not completely knowledgable about the pedagogy of teaching 8th grade science (I taught history as a teacher), nor was I an expert in Special Education. I needed to trust (see #3) my people in those areas to do their jobs in a proficient manner while I teamed with them to ensure they had the resources and support to run their departments well. As leaders, it is critical we (when appropriate) delegate and defer responsibilities to others for the long-term viability of the organization. Otherwise, people at the top who attempt to filter everything through themselves find they are on an inevitable path to burnout while sacrificing the potential of the company, school, or team.

3) Trust
Typically, organizations that thrive also experience high levels of trust. How do effective leaders build that trust? Slowly. Methodically. Genuinely. One person at a time, one day at a time. One fundamental, primary ingredient that must be present in trust-building is how people must know you are a safe person. What I mean by that, is how others need to believe you care about them and care about the team above yourself. Think for a moment about someone who was in a position of authority who, at his core, was only out for himself. Could others detect that? If so, how did it influence how they did their jobs? Most significantly, how did it impact the organization? Nothing will erode trust faster than a “gotcha” mentality in which people feel as though they need to protect themselves from an individual who is out to leverage herself at the expense of those to whom she has been entrusted. However, when strong cords of trust have been layered over time your people will experience the freedom to take risks and fully apply themselves toward their role within the group.

4) Be Vulnerable
This can be a tough one to display (especially for us men!). However, it is a beautiful vehicle to create connection and convey empathy. It could be a simple statement such as, “This is awkward and difficult for me” during a challenging conversation. As leaders, our instinct is usually to attempt to hide such thoughts. However, what we don’t often stop to realize is that chances are, people are already aware of them. Sharing our vulnerability allows for us to show authenticity, which can also lead to trust-building. As you may be noticing, many of these traits overlap and are interrelated. A common misconception is that showing vulnerability conveys weakness. I believe this is only true when combined with shortcomings related to job performance. For example, if a supervisor were to share with those who report to her she doesn’t feel competent to effectively fulfill the role of her position that would not be showing vulnerability. More than likely, it would be revealing a lack of knowledge or skill. However, this is rare. I encourage you to be strong enough to (occasionally) show weakness, which leads us to #5…

5) Be Courageous
Scott Turow is credited with the quote, “Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to carry on with dignity in spite of it”. There are times when leaders need to be seen out front during times of uncertainty, regardless of any accompanying fear. You don’t need to try and hide your anxiety (see #4), but I also wouldn’t recommend allowing it to overcome you. Inherently, people take comfort in knowing someone is in charge and there are times when leaders must step into that void and fill that role. If other leadership characteristics have been demonstrated over time, chances are people will rally around that and show support because they know you are only human and doing your best to lead them.

In closing, I believe leadership characteristics can be learned and improved, and the five qualities I have covered are skills that are transferrable. If you would like to expand your leadership capabilities with a trained, certificated, and professional coach I invite you to contact me for a complimentary 30-minute design session.

 

Chuck Sheron, AELC
Reimagine Success Coaching, LLC
www.reimaginesuccesscoaching.com
[email protected]

5 Important Strategies for Achieving Your Goals

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5 Important Strategies for Achieving Your Goals

What are some of the most important components that are necessary to improve the likelihood of you meeting your goals? Most of us engage in goal setting at one point or another (including near January 1, when we refer to it as “New Year’s Resolutions”). Some set goals regularly. Unfortunately, too often people fall short of the targets they set for themselves. Why? Not necessarily because of a lack of determination, skill, or grit, but rather due to a failure to properly set themselves up for success. In my practice as a professional coach and consultant I work with all kinds of people, including organizational leaders, executives, and small business owners who tend to be highly effective individuals. However, many of them find it beneficial to rewind the goal setting process to square one in order to construct a sound template for hitting the bullseye they are aiming for. I use the following strategies with my clients and offer to share them with you, as well.

1) Clarifying Values
What are the principles that resonate most with you? For what concepts will you base significant decisions around? When coaching, I guide my clients in a deep-dive into first identifying, then defining, and finally rank-ordering their core values. This creates an anchor to which they can tether future actions. I also ask my clients to ascribe a name, or nickname, to their values. Doing so can create a memory link and increase the meaning of the values. For example, words such as “Rock”, “Compass”, or “Solid” can help people refer back to their values a bit more easily. Spending quality time and energy working with the values themselves is always worth the effort, because it provides the foundation by which a client can create meaningful outcomes and action steps forward.

2) Establishing Outcomes
This is the stage where I help my clients to articulate and specify their goals. Motivation comes into play here, as well. Specifically, I like to introduce an exercise which allows the client to explore the relationship between self and empathetic motivations. This has the effect of creating additional links to increase meaning both internally and externally by coaching the client to think in terms of how reaching the goal will have an impact on themselves, as well as on others. Conversely, I ask my clients to consider the implications of not achieving their goal. How would that result impact themselves and those around them? The power of visualization can be utilized here to help the client see themselves being successful, as imagining a favorable outcome is a positive precursor to achieving it.

3) Creating Action Steps
In this phase we get very specific about how the client will achieve the desired outcome, accessing their core values and keeping the end goal in view as they do. For example, if someone is interested in improving their health through a more consistent exercise regimen I will ask the client to tell me about the routine they already have (if there is one). We will then work backward in two different scenarios: one in which the result was successful and one in which the result was unsuccessful. I then ask the client what the turning point was which allowed them to follow through with the routine. Perhaps it was setting the exercise shoes near the front door the night before. Maybe it involved packing the gym bag immediately after eating breakfast. Whatever is was, it’s important to identify, highlight, and imbed it into the revised plan. Conversely, I also ask the client at what point the plan broke down. When was the decision made – in this case – to not exercise? Again, identifying that point is critical so we can then address ways to overcome it.

4) Setting Accountability
Building in accountability significantly increases the overall success rate of goal achievement. I prompt my clients to consider carefully those who could help them along the way by holding them accountable. Often, those closest to them are chosen (e.g. a spouse, close friend, etc.). As their coach, I am a part of this accountability cycle too because reporting out to me (i.e. “homework”) is typically how we begin every session. Occasionally a client will actually choose a future version of themselves as an accountability partner. This may seem, on the surface, ineffective. However, an individual may be sufficiently motivated to become a better version of themselves at some point in the future. That future self may even be expecting it. Regardless of who the accountability partners are, what is important is that the client must know others are aware of their goals so they may both report to and celebrate with those people.

5) Allowing for Revisions
Sometimes the action steps, or even the goals themselves, need to be revised. This is okay. Better to address something that isn’t working than continue with a plan that is doomed to fail. Usually I’ll take the client back to the action steps and review what parts are serving them well, and what parts are not. Think of it as the cycle of improvement: create, implement, review, improve, (repeat).

One of the key principles I share with my clients is that slow and steady wins the race. Just as in the classic story of the tortoise and the hare, the one who rushes the goal-setting process to get quick results is likely to end up tired, burned-out, and defeated (just like the rabbit!). Instead, I encourage my clients to methodically work through the process and stay committed for the long haul to win whatever race they have chosen to enter.

If you would like some help in achieving your goals with a trained, certificated, and professional coach I invite you to contact me for a complimentary 30-minute design session.

Chuck Sheron
Executive Leadership and Career Coach
Reimagine Success Coaching
www.reimaginesuccesscoaching.com
[email protected]

What Are Some of the Benefits of Career Coaching?

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What Are Some of the Benefits of Career Coaching?

Perhaps you are considering seeking the services of a professional career coach, but are not sure what to expect for the return of your investment. “How can a career coach help me?” you may be asking. “What is the value added, and what are the skills and tools I can acquire from working with one?” As a trained and certificated professional coach, I can tell you the benefits are numerous. The following are just a handful of them. Keep in mind that a quality coach will tailor their approach for each client, according to their specific needs. However, the services of a career coach do tend to fall into these general categories:

1) Job Hunting Assistance
All things related to improving and refining one’s resume, applications, interviewing skills, networking tactics, and negotiating. I call these the Nuts and Bolts of finding a job. It always helps to have an extra pair of eyes and ears to notice ways in which you can improve yourself so you are able to put your best foot forward. Usually, many applicants are vying for the same position, and any advantage you can attain over your competition can be well worth the effort. I will note that career coaches should not be confused with recruiters, or “head-hunters”. The basic difference between the two is that coaches help and empower their clients to act on behalf of themselves, while recruiters aim to match job-seekers with employers.

2) Strengths-Based Assessments
A high-quality coach will help a client to discover, recognize, and apply personal and professional attributes to a given situation. Examples of exercises a professional coach may use include increasing a client’s awareness of values, motivations, systems, and assumptions. I usually introduce a personality assessment to my clients during the course of our sessions, as this opens the door to empowering them to use the tool as a means for self-growth. For example, a client may identify strongly with tendencies toward helping others. I will then leverage that information to help him or her to explore related attributes, such as communication styles, leadership styles, and suggest exercises to counterbalance potential pitfalls. This is also the category of coaching that best lends itself to helping a client to consider more long-term career pathways, as opposed to shorter-term jobs.

3) A Mentor and Advocate to Walk with You on Your Journey
Whether you are near the beginning, middle, or last leg of your career, a trusted confidant to accompany you can be invaluable. Let’s face it, job and career transitions are tough. Why go it alone when you can enjoy the advantages of a guide who can help you navigate these challenging waters? A mentor speaks to someone with the ability to assist another, based on experience. In my practice, I incorporate a healthy mix of challenging my clients to persevere and achieve more beyond their comfort zones with championing, or reminding my clients of their potential and the possibilities that exist just beyond the current doubt they may be experiencing.

As someone who has both gained from the services of a career coach and provided career coaching I can tell you the benefits can be extraordinary. If you would like to explore a relationship with a trained, certificated, and professional coach I invite you to contact me for a complimentary 30-minute design session.

Chuck Sheron
Executive Leadership and Career Coach
Reimagine Success Coaching
www.reimaginesuccesscoaching.com
[email protected]

Why Do Leaders Hire An Executive Coach?

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Why Do Leaders Hire an Executive Coach?

Ever wonder why business leaders and other professionals hire executive coaches? The reasons are many, and corporate, non-profit, and church boards, CEOs, and business owners are investing in their employees at a skyrocketing rate. Here are some reasons why…

1) To Develop Leadership Skills
The mark of a great leader is not to create followers, but to empower and grow leadership capabilities in others. We all started somewhere. Who took the time and resources to invest in you? People are realizing the necessity of recognizing potential in their workforce and providing them with the skills and tools they need to take the next step in their professional and personal growth. Sometimes this takes the form of investing in a newly-promoted manager to increase the likelihood she will be successful. Perhaps the prerequisite abilities are present in this individual, but she needs to broaden her skillset in order to effectively address the demands of the new position.

2) To Improve and Refine
This often takes place prior to, during, or following a performance review. There are areas in need of addressing, and you want to support your people in providing them with every opportunity to hit the mark. Examples of such areas may include: organizational, communication, interpersonal, and time management skills. Additionally, newly-promoted leaders sometimes need assistance in transitioning to think and process in a new capacity, particularly if that individual now has people reporting to her.

3) To Help Resolve Interpersonal Issues with Other Employees
Sometimes an individual’s personality, communication style, body language, and leadership style can rub others the wrong way. By addressing the behaviors and empowering the employee to make changes from a strengths-based approach, your emerging leader can improve his own effectiveness, as well as the effectiveness of your other employees. A highly trained, quality executive coach utilizes various tools and exercises to accomplish this, such as Assumptions, Empathy, Powerful Relationships, Bird’s-Eye-View, and Perspectives.

4) To Document Investments and Interventions Taken
Often an executive wants to be able to show the person she reports to, whether to an individual or to a board, how she is taking steps to invest in a particular employee. Sometimes this is connected to an executive’s own performance review, and she wants to be able to point to how she is committed to improving the overall quality of the organization. When you can present to your supervisor(s) how your direct actions positively impacted an individual within the organization, perhaps even achieving one of your own goals in the process, that bodes well for everyone.

5) It’s Lonely at the Top
Of course, leaders themselves seek out the services of executive coaches. When in a position of influence and authority, it can be difficult – and even unwise – to confide in those who report to you. Vulnerability is a key leadership characteristic. However, you want to limit that vulnerability to appropriate, strategic times. Your own personal and professional growth is usually not one of those times. Leaders find it invigorating to learn and grow with another professional within the confines of a safe, confidential coach-client relationship.

Today, business and organizational leaders are looking for an edge that can distinguish themselves from their competition. Many are finding the value provided by executive coaching is well worth the investment, as the payoff results in increased productivity, improved climate and culture, and expanded leadership capacities. If you would like to explore a relationship with a trained, certificated, and high-quality executive coach I invite you to contact me for a complimentary 30-minute design session.

Chuck Sheron
Executive Leadership and Career Coach
Reimagine Success Coaching
www.reimaginesuccesscoaching.com
[email protected]